I’ve been lying to everyone and it’s time to make
amends. You see, when asked about
Christmas, I always tell folks I “don’t do” Christmas. And that’s true. I don’t celebrate the holiday in a
traditional way. I don’t have family, so
I don’t feel obligated to participate in any dreaded family get-togethers. I haven’t purchased a single gift nor have I
mailed even one card. There are no
candles in the window nor carols at the spinet.
And I’ve lived this way for close to two decades.
But the reality is, I really do love Christmas. Besides the stress that surrounds the
holiday, I have some lovely memories of big family dinners, Christmas Eve
midnight mass, our annual Christmas choir concert featuring “O Holy Night,” and
Christmas morning with all the grandchildren. I used to decorate a tree each year and I
still have a box of ornaments (in storage) that I collected in the first 30
years of my life. I used to send out
hundreds of Christmas cards. I used to
bake dozens of cookies for family, friends, and co-workers. I even used to host a Christmas caroling
party at my home. So, what
happened? How did I become the girl who
didn’t “do Christmas?”
The transition happened gradually, shortly before I moved to
California in 1998. My grandmother, who
had been the anchor of many of our family traditions, passed away. My father picked up the reins and we started
some new traditions without her. And
then my father died. And then I moved to
California. The first winter I lived
here, I travelled home to upstate New York for the holiday. It was just me, my mother, and my sister (who
also used to live in CA). My other
sister had estranged herself from the family, and, as the mother of the only
grandchildren in the family, she deprived us of sharing the experience with
children. So we went from a two-day
celebration filled with tons of family and friends to a depressing week where
my mother didn’t get out of bed, my sister drank 2 bottles of wine each night, and
I started to hate the holiday that I had always loved. Although my mother lived another five years
after this, that was my last Christmas in New York.
The following year, I started riding a bicycle. I hooked up with three other riders (all
training for the California AIDS Ride) and we rode together for 4 days over the
Christmas holiday. We called ourselves
the “Christmas Orphans.” We each had a
different story, but what we shared was the fact that we were alone for the
holidays and that we all rode a bike. On
Christmas morning 1999, we rode a 30-mile route in San Francisco. We continued to be friends and this ride
became a holiday tradition. Over the
years, the other three moved on to other traditions, I continued on, and today
marked the 15th Annual Christmas Orphans’ Tour of San
Francisco. In these 15 years, I’ve only
missed twice: once when we cancelled due
to torrential rain and wind and once when I was recovering from surgery.
One year, there were only 2 of us on the ride (it was
pouring rain). One year, there were
close to 100 riders (thanks to a calendar listing from the San Francisco
Bicycle Coalition. Everyone comes from a
different place, many of them with connections to me, and they share the desire
to participate in a fun, social ride on Christmas morning. And, no matter what size the group, we bring
smiles to the faces of all who see us, dressed in Santa hats, elf costumes, and
riding decorated bikes.
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| Alyson + Lorri at the Golden Gate Bridge |
The Christmas Orphans’ Tour of San Francisco is a unique
ride. It’s not a long ride, totaling
just 29 miles. It’s not a hard ride,
with less than 1,500’ of climbing. It’s
not a fast ride, since we keep the group together (no matter how slow the
slowest rider is) and we stop to enjoy the view, take photos, and maybe even
have a cup of hot chocolate. It’s a
social ride where old friends and new friends get to see the city in a new way. On Christmas morning, when everyone else is
sitting around their Christmas tree, you can see the random art in the city –
the murals and mosaics, the sculpture and the architecture, and, on a clear day
like today, the amazing views of the bay, the bridges, and the ocean.
It’s been fascinating for me to see how our beautiful city
has changed in the past 15 years. The
infrastructure for bicycles has improved dramatically. The ballpark was built and has changed names a
couple of times. Parts of the city have
been developed while other parts have become less desirable. I’ve noticed more folks are out and about
running, bicycling, surfing, and walking (and today’s beautiful weather
definitely contributed to this). And I
still see the homeless, the needy, and the hopeful on street corners and hidden
in the nooks and crannies of the city.
So, my reality is that I DO celebrate Christmas. And I DO give gifts. My gift is bringing together random strangers
and friends to share in this amazing experience. I give folks who might be alone the
opportunity to spend time with others. I
give folks who don’t celebrate Christmas something to do on a day when many
folks are busy with family. I give
myself the opportunity to continue a tradition that has been very meaningful
for me. And the other riders give me the
opportunity to share this with them.
It’s amazing to me that I’ve continued this tradition for 15
years. I don’t think I’ve ever done
anything else in my entire life for 15 years.
But then again, I’ve never loved anything or anyone the way I love my
bike. And love is actually what
traditions like Christmas are all about.
Merry Christmas, everyone!
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| The Christmas Orphans at Fisherman's Wharf |
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